what do you guys think of gay men saying (BAN ME PLEASE), gay women saying dyke, and trans people saying (BAN ME PLEASE)? i don't know if it's just me, but i have noticed controversy in the lgbt community for it. my opinion is that if you fall under the category of what the slur is, you can use it. it's not in a hateful way to say (BAN ME PLEASE) as a gay man, while it is hateful from a straight man.
food for thought
if someone doesn't want people using words, they shouldn't use those words themselves. i rarely use the word (BAN ME PLEASE) to refer to myself, but when i do, it's usually with close friends in a sorta ironic / jokey way. even with that said, the type of stuff i say with friends is sorta an exception because it's in a "private space" between a handful of people. we'll use offensive words and make racist jokes about each other (both irl and online), but we don't speak that way with just
anyone because between us, we know we aren't offending each other.
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outside of small groups of friends, i'd absolutely never use a slur of any kind to refer to myself or to another person, regardless if i'm "allowed" to use that slur or not based on being part of some "category". using a slur on another person (even if we're both part of the same "category") could be pretty rude / offensive lol. when it comes to calling myself one of those words or just using those words in general, what i said in the first sentence applies :p. someone using words to refer to themselves with & then getting offended when someone uses those same words to refer to them is almost as if that person is putting themselves above someone else for something as small as gender or sexuality. furthermore, if someone takes serious offense to being called a fаggot or a (BAN ME PLEASE), they shouldn't use it themselves because that'll (and rightfully so) make people think it's okay to use those words, not just for that person, but in general.
i personally don't agree with the usage of any type of slurs, so i'm not gonna go around saying (BAN ME PLEASE) or w/e because i'd prefer other people not call me those things. with that said, i don't really care much about being called slurs like that... that doesn't mean i'm okay with it or something, but if someone's trying to insult me and the only thing they can come up with is a slur about race / gender / sexuality (things out of my control), why should i care lol.
on the topic of words and stuff in general, i think queer is a fine umbrella term, but i don't really get why we have to have LGBTQIA+ or whatever it is now lol. from what i've seen, queer just sorta means "out of the ordinary", so using it as an umbrella term for
sexualities (LGBA) makes sense. when it comes to genders, i don't personally see it as appropriate to use for trans people. one of the main points of mtf an ftm transitions is for that person to feel comfort and normality in regards to their body... labeling us as
queer sorta makes that redundant imo. our genders aren't "mtf" and "ftm"... they're female and male. obviously there are differences between a transgender person and a cisgender person of the same gender (as in one had to
transition duh), but there's already a label so people know that difference: transgender >.>. so yeah, i don't get why people have to complicate things about transgender people when it's just male and female like cisgender people... just the fact that transgender people
transition (in some way) to get their body to match and stuff.