I get you.I'm bi curious.
I mainly target guys BUT if a girl did ask me out, I'd take the request because I'm curious of what a lesbian relationship would be like. You see what I mean?
Arguing with someone like that is like trying to pull a donkey anywhere, he's going to dig his heels in ever more deeper the harder you fight him on it. The best way is to continue being the person you are and referring to trans/etc people the way they want to be referred to as. You're never going to pull him in your direction, but you can slowly show him the way and hope he follows.IDK if this should be here but I'm kinda upset so I will post it anyway. Yesterday I was talking about the difference between gender and sex with my step dad and he is adamant on believing they are the same. He even looked it up on his phone and is going witht the answer that they are both interchangable. He also said some extremely transphobic shit about my brother in law (who's trans male) saying things like "oh we refer to him as a guy but he still has a vagina therefore hes still a girl" I live with my parents still but honestly I really don't want to live with someone who is stubborn and bigoted like this. In this situation how do I deal with people so close to me that are like this?? I feel like I cant even educate him on the movement because he will still resort to his bullshit traditional ways :(
Hey, buddy, I understand what that's like -- being a queer kid (I presume you're a kid) in a conservative place, feeling that I would burden by family by asking for help. It's scary, I get it. But if you do conclude that you are, in fact, trans, you deserve help, and not from a stranger on a Pokemon forum. Provided your parents are the supportive type (and I know that's a big if), you have no reason not to reach out to them. It's their job to support you, and you can't be expected to handle this alone. If they aren't -- and this is a very key thing to discern, for your own safety -- there are still lots of resources available for you. Here's one! Best of luck, and let me know if you'd like any more advice.I'm starting to experience confusion over my gender big-time now. I want to start therapy to get things all sorted out, but I'm afraid to ask my parents because I feel like I'did just be wasting their money, which I feel like with everything. It's why I rarely ask for stuff.
If it turns out I am trans, then I wouldn't come out anywhere but here until I move because being out in Texas is a really bad idea, considering their borderline theocratic lawmakers, even if I do live in pretty much the only blue part of the state
My parents are definitely the supportive types, they're pretty pro-LGBT. Not wanting to go to therapy as a result of feeling like I'd just be wasting their money is the result of self-esteem issues that I've had for a little while now. It was before this identity crisis started though, which started manifesting at the beginning of the month.Hey, buddy, I understand what that's like -- being a queer kid (I presume you're a kid) in a conservative place, feeling that I would burden by family by asking for help. It's scary, I get it. But if you do conclude that you are, in fact, trans, you deserve help, and not from a stranger on a Pokemon forum. Provided your parents are the supportive type (and I know that's a big if), you have no reason not to reach out to them. It's their job to support you, and you can't be expected to handle this alone. If they aren't -- and this is a very key thing to discern, for your own safety -- there are still lots of resources available for you. Here's one! Best of luck, and let me know if you'd like any more advice.
I understand completely. I've struggled with that, too. But I can tell you personally that the longer you keep these issues under wraps, both your identity and your self-esteem, the more difficult they will be to handle. If anything, chances are your parents would be more troubled by the thought of you going through this alone than taking you to therapy (Although your financial situation is a separate issue, God bless America). Coming out, even about simply questioning your identity, is always a tough decision, since it's one of those things you're never completely ready for. And it's for that reason that I'm not going to suggest you to do one thing over another, since whether or not you feel ready is 100% your call, but don't be discouraged by fear of burdening someone else. Trust me, I know how hard that is, but talking about your problems only gets easier after taking that first plunge.My parents are definitely the supportive types, they're pretty pro-LGBT. Not wanting to go to therapy as a result of feeling like I'd just be wasting their money is the result of self-esteem issues that I've had for a little while now. It was before this identity crisis started though, which started manifesting at the beginning of the month.
I don't have a financial issue either. I'll try to get them to start taking me to therapy soon, if I don't forget.I understand completely. I've struggled with that, too. But I can tell you personally that the longer you keep these issues under wraps, both your identity and your self-esteem, the more difficult they will be to handle. If anything, chances are your parents would be more troubled by the thought of you going through this alone than taking you to therapy (Although your financial situation is a separate issue, God bless America). Coming out, even about simply questioning your identity, is always a tough decision, since it's one of those things you're never completely ready for. And it's for that reason that I'm not going to suggest you to do one thing over another, since whether or not you feel ready is 100% your call, but don't be discouraged by fear of burdening someone else. Trust me, I know how hard that is, but talking about your problems only gets easier after taking that first plunge.
in some parts of the world (like where i live in, warsaw) every girl wants a gay best friend, so if you match the stereotype of a gay man they desire life is even easier than for a hetero man. i have a couple lesbian friends, none of them have came out, they would only get silent hate from both genders. at this time in the enviroment i live in (rather wealthy people) everyone is 'open' and 'gay-friendly' so no one would openly attack you for beeing lesbian or transgender, but you will be treated very diffrently.I have a question: do queer girls have the same difficulties coming out that guys do? I mean, with guys it's viewed as unmanly because being gay is apparently the opposite of being manly. Are there analogous cultural mechanisms for girls?
your post made me think about my own experiences. personally I never really had any gay role models, probably because I never knew that I was gay until the age of 14/15 (so that would've been in 2006). Actually, even back then, I knew I was different, but I never really identified as gay just because I didn't really know what being gay meant, and I still didn't really understand myself until I spoke to a few users on smogon actually. The lack of guidance and role models was probably the reason why I was so depressed, self-destructive, and awkward. ah what terrible times they were.ok, i dunno where to post this so i'll post it here.
So lots of you probably have/had role models growing up queer. Ellen, Neil Patrick Harris, even fictional characters like that Santana girl from Glee. For me, that person was Shinji Ikari from Neon Genesis Evangelion.
It wasn't just that he liked dudes. Shinji is a very relatable character to me in many respects. I've struggled with neuroses like he has in the past, and tend to blot out my problems through escapism. His bisexuality is also portrayed as a part of his neuroses rather than being separate from it, with him being willing to bend over backwards for anyone who shows him a speck of affection. (IMO this is fine because the straight characters have their sexualities as a big part of their neuroses too)
And I just...don't know where I'd be without a guy like him.